feif un:
When they tell me it’s my responsibility to support them so they can sit and learn without worrying about housing
So you recognize that it is your responsibility to support lomdei Torah, but you don’t appreciate being reminded of it. Like a husband whose wife nudges her husband to fulfill the terms of her kesubah. I can see why that would be annoying, although I’ve never seen anyone do it myself.
or feeding their families, while their wives are working two jobs (whenever they’re not on maternity leave!)
From this part of your comment it sounds as though you have a problem with Jewish people who don’t use birth control when it is not permitted to them. Can you clarify?