” not for a bas yisroel. “
So, let me see if I have the facts down.
You came to work in a modest, pleated skirt, sensible flats, business appropriate blouse, hair in a pony, and only a touch of makeup, and the “frum married men” were on your case like pack of wolves?
Or is it perhaps time for a reality check?
I have worked in a mixed office for years. The people that attract trouble are the ones that invite it.
At your next job (may you land one soon), try asking your Rebbetizn or Sem Madricha for fashion tips.
Chances are, that will give you the respect you seek.