Aries-welcome back!
ILC-Aries gives you solid examples of I statements, focusing on how you feel rather than blaming the other party with the You statement.
It is MUCH easier for the other person to hear and does NOT put them on the defensive.
It’s ok for you to be sensitive, btw, accept who you are and work with it.
Many people would feel the same way if on the receiving end of unhealthy communication such as what you describe above (name calling, …)