Pressure is not good. Knowing that your younger sibling is already married might put pressure on you. But knowing that he/she is waiting for you will also put pressure on you. What to do?
The truth is I think the only reason Older (who is single) will feel pressure seeing Younger married with a kid is because there is this idea out there that life means that you graduate elementary school, graduate high school, do some time in Yeshiva/Seminary, get married, have kids, lead them through this process, help out with the grandkids in the same process, play some slots in Florida, and die. So Older feels pressured because Younger is one step ahead in this great process even though Older started first. As much as we tell ourselves we are individuals, unique, original, blah blah blah, how much do people really believe that? If we did we would live in the moment and stop running. Stop moving along this endless process and actually experience something and live it. If people would be imbued with this idea then perhaps when Older graduates from being a child his/her first though would not be “Ok, what am I expected to do now?” But rather, “What do I want to be, and how do I go about making that happen?” Maybe then girls would not care to get married at eighteen, and maybe they’d decide to pursue a college degree first. Hey, simply crunching the numbers that would solve a big part of the Shidduch Crisis. And Older wouldn’t be able to care less if Younger goes out first, because life isn’t a race, and each person is the main character in their own story. Ok that last bit was a bit cheesy. The point is, well, I don’t know what the point is. I’ve been ranting. I forgot what I was talking about.