Reply To: Kiruv Question

Okay, thanks everybody for your advice.

1. Believe me, I have tried to establish any kind of connection with her. She is completely unreceptive. The only things she is interested in talking about are guys, movies, music… When doing kiruv one is not supposed to identify with those parts of the non-Jewish world that the Torah and Halacha are against. If the only way I can become her friend is by telling her that I might do things she does which are against halacha, should I? Is that not hypocritical?

2. Kapusta- the org. is supposed to look into things like that but I don’t think they knew. I asked them and they said they will look into it.

3. About her boyfriend- She knows the dangers of messing around. She just doesn’t trust herself not to. She is so emotionally dependent on this guy that she is liable to do what he asks. We spoke for an hour about the huge impact a negative relationship can have on someone’s life but she isn’t strong enough to break up with him.

4.I know she is thirsting for friendship. Someone to listen, to care and to love. And I am totally up for that. But it just seems that everything I say or try is pointless. I know that maybe a few years down the line she might remember things I told her, but what if it’s too late??