wow Yentingyenta, kol hakoved. I was a nurse once upon a time. And yes, the charting and reporting thing can get unneceassary gossip and info that is NOT called for. That always bugged me. It irked me the wrong way. I feel its used as an excuse to sneak in a few opinions indirectly. For example, if a religious orthodox woman is not “coping” then where is her G-d? is their question.
I found its like there is a judgment call on needless info.
I have a personal experience, that recently I had a baby and baby had to go to NICU for a few days. I resented the fact that during my sit in visits with baby I overheard the nurses at change of shift reporting to one another and said something like “Mom wants to nurse, or insists to be called in for every feeding”. But it was their tone of voice that said “problematic mother”. Or that they found me to be a hassle for that reason. Because they have to call me rather than just giving baby a bottle.
In NICU – its a touchy area because the nurses are the technical mothers reviving and keeping this baby alive, but BUT I somehow picked up the vibe that they very much want the parents to keep away. I got intimidated by one nasty nurse who wouldn’t let me nurse my baby a minute over the scheduled feeding. I cried. And she kept trying to persuade me “sweetly” to leave.
I think if Hashem put you in this field and environment then you have a job in being the sweet role model of how to speak respecfully about all parties when reporting and keeping your voice in an even tone, especially when reporting the difficult or derogative info. so that the nurses pick up on the objective.
However, you must remain diplomatic and never confront anyone any time about their use of language and tone. Its not worth it.
Nursing is stressful if only because of the interpersonal relationships on the floor,,,plus some.
WOw NICU …what a scary and daring responsibility!!! I could never do it!