OK – I read the ad in the Yated this Shabbos. Our whole family thinks it’s absolutely CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First of all – this is taking Hashem – THE ULTIMATE SHADCHAN – out of the picture! All the work – obviously is done by these amazing shadchanim – when I say “obviously”, I mean because otherwise how can they charge these amounts?
Secondly – I guess only the rich can join this exclusive club. The ad might as well say “Are You Rich? Are You Single? Come to us – we’ll solve the problem!”
Third – Many Rabbanim are putting takonos on wedding expenses. Don’t spend more than X amount on this, X amount on that… etc. because they know that the amount people spend on weddings is outrageous. They spend more than they can afford just to “keep up with the Jonses”! So now Nasi is charging outrageous amounts for shiduchim – when this money can be used toward the wedding? Yes a shadchan must get paid but come on…this is ridiculous!!!
Fourth – if the shadchan gets this much schar in this world, what does he/she get in Olam Haba?
Ok – no more numbering my statements – I feel they are making this into a business deal. It’s horrible. Also how do you think a girl feels if her next birhtday comes after she’s been on for 12 months and WHAM – she has to put up another thousand dollars? Wonderful – now she’s more of a neb.
One more thing – why don’t they list the Rabbonim who’s haskama they’re under? Do they not want their names known? Why? Sounds weird to me.