mommamia -“The one who got set up with over 200 shidduchim, and had sooo many (possibly) amazing choices for a spouse, and I chose THIS one?!?! So be it! What can I do?”
Maybe you did let the right one go, but right now if you are being abused you shouldn’t take it. Please seek professional counseling. Go yourself, even if your husband refuses to go.
This is a very serious situation, nothing to be joked about. Don’t go to anyone besides therapists who have experience with this. Don’t listen to friends, family, etc. Find a very good therapist. Relief is an org. that specializes in referrals.