It’s one thing to have a table for aniyim at a chasunah but it’s something else when many chasunah invaders disturb the chuppa and are very aggressive with their shnorring. In addition, at the meal, they sit in seats reserved for guests. Women are not aware of this annoyance since they are spared schnorring in their section.
When I make a chasunah, I leave several hundred dollars with the hall manager to distribute to schnorrers to avoid having my guests subjected to this unwanted behavior. I don’t invite friends and relatives to my simcha to get solicited.
To all of you who are pro-shnorring at simchas: How about allowing them to invade your home when you make a vort or birthday party and have them mingle with your guests and work the crowd. How about shnorring at a shiva house; who would deny a shnorrer there? And set up some seats for shnorrers at your dining room or simcha hall the next time you have a parlor meeting or bris or bar mitzvah seudah, let’s all enjoy.
Give tzadaka, but there are times and places when it is not appropriate.