agittayid-
“The frum communities in our area have created a model of the ideal frum young man: hat, jacket, a few years of beis medrash, and hopefully a year or two of kollel after marriage….”
The ideal frum man- no mention of kindness, honesty, courage, or intelligence.
I’d like to add on to this comment:
We, as a frum society, has put so much effort into learning Torah…I think we have forgotten one of the most important prerequisites: honesty and kindness towards others. The frum society scorns those who do not fit the “ideal mode” that “we should look like” on an outward perspective. This, I feel, is something that needs to be changed before anything else.