Syag,
I am so sorry for your loss. I’m so saddened to hear. I have you in my prayers.
I think donating is the greatest way to give of oneself, but not everyone is up for the challenge. It’s very important to be very well informed. Writing here is a good beginning towards getting information. It’s just that, though; a beginning.
Such an undertaking has to be taken with careful thought and consideration. A person would be wise to speak with as many people as possible (donors as well as recipients) as well as top medical professionals who can shed light (statistical and case examples) of positive and negative reactions to the surgery. Elective surgery should not be taken lightly.