RB, you chose to communicate with me and others and push your point. I was NOT abusing you, I was answering you as others were and only making sincere suggestions to you to take this question to someone who you can trust to give you an honest and sincere explanation.
RB, it is YOU who chose to post an answer harshly on this thread and it is you who has been quite harsh in your responses to mytake basically telling her that she is ungrateful being the “beggar” that she is expecting more than she received. Maybe that wasn’t really what you meant to say, but that is the essence of the message you relayed over and over again, no matter how many others have debated you and pointed out to you that you have the wrong view of this particular mitzvah.
I don’t know if you are arguing for the sake of arguing, if you have a need to be right or you really are confused about this issue. I made a simple suggestion to you that you speak to your own RAV to hear what he has to say about it. I don’t consider that abuse but good advice. If you find that offensive I apologize. Are you willing to apologize to mytake for abusing her?