Reply To: Doing Chesed With Mentchlichkeit

Bottom line – if you are going to do a chessed, do it as a chessed. If you cannot do it, then let someone else get the mitzvah. Though you get some brownie points for every aspect of the tovos you do, maybe the reason we call it gemilus chassadim, is that if you are not “gomeil” the chessed, meaning doing a COMPLETE chessed in every aspect, it is not really a chessed.