SilentOne: It would also be a good idea to evaluate yourself and try to understand why you picked such a person.
A man who driving down a road when he sees a woman crawling around on her hands and knees under a street lamp. He pulls over and asks her what’s going on? so she responds she’s looking for her keys. So he helps her look for it and then asks her if she has any idea where she dropped them. She answers that she lost them a mile down the road. “So why in the world are you looking here?” She answers “because it’s familiar territory and the light’s better.”
While this may not apply to you, sometimes even when we know someone is not what we want, but it’s comfortable simply because it’s familiar territory. Or we are so eager to please that we don’t realize we are being used and taken advantage of.
Again, it may not apply to you at all, but I think anyone who has in a failed marriage should evalulate not only how to not be fooled again but also to see if perhaps they also need to change someone so that they aren’t a victim again.