You don’t have to end the marriage or anything like that immediately. If he wants to go through counseling and maybe medications then maybe you can keep your family together, especially if he usually is as nice as you say he sometimes is. However, until then you need to find somewhere to go. It can be an acquaintance, a distant relative, or maybe even your estranged family, depending on your circumstance. But you can’t stay where you are now. I was once told that if a wife or child is ever beaten, it is assumed to be Pikuach Nefesh immediately and that you have to call the police even on Shabbos. I don’t know if I would Pasken the same, but this is a serious issue. You have to do something. It’s not in any way your fault, but leaving yourself and your children in an abusive situation is something you cannot do. Being too scared or too worried and doing nothing will only hurt yourself and your kids even more.
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