but would it have been truly better if he had have just admitted it and expressed true remorse off the bat? Mabye he was just scared of the ramifications of admitting the truth? tell me what you think pls.
I think you can’t excuse his behavior saying that he lost control and didn’t mean to do what he did if afterwards he didn’t own up to what he did and express remorse. If he would have been shaken up by what he did, I can understand you thinking, well, we all get angry at our children, and he just lost control, but it seems you are just looking for ways to give him the benefit of the doubt, without any justification. This may seem like a wonderful middah, but your case, it definitely isn’t, because the ramifications are tremendous and nobody deserves to be treated this way.
I hope very much you didn’t excuse his behavior to your 6 year old. I also hope you told her that you believe her account. It is extremely damaging to a child to have her doubt something she herself witnessed.
However, inside I am an amazingly funny, creative strong person with ideas.
I have always thought this about you from other threads you have posted on. Not to mention your screen name which is a riot and takes creativity to think of.
I have heard wonderful things about Shalom Task Force. It is important that you keep in contact with them so they can guide you.
Hatzlacha rabba. And please continue to post. We care. And so many members here can give you emotional support.