I know I’m coming in the middle of a very heated conversation and haven’t been following the posts since motzei shabbos, however your comment of “he isn’t violent towards me” needs explanation.
You’ve said that your scared of what your husband will do to you and that he threatens you not to take your medication. If this is the case then the only reason he isn’t violent towards you is because you’re scared of him (but if you weren’t he would be violent towards you)