rc: Incorrect, the core problem is NOT that 23 year old boys can marry 19/20/21/22/23 year old girls..
the core problem is simply that there are far more 19 year old girls than 23 year old boys.
THAT is the core problem and that is what is meant by age gap.
Sam: it has nothing to do with arranged marriges. The reason the chassidim don’t have a problem is becaue the boys begin dating 18/19 they also happen to do arranged marriages.
If they began at 18/19 and did shidduch dating the would also not have a problem. If they began at 23 and did arrenged marriages they would have a problem.
IF you suggest that the reason why they date at 18/19 is becasue they do arranged marriages AND you suggest that it is possible to duplicate that in the non chassidic community, BY all means go for. I’ll inevest my energies elsewher, but don’t hold back. give it your best shot.