enlightenedjew: Dismantling the dating system might solve the problem, yes. So would the ancient method of “Organicly” making sure your future husband would propose (which is exactly what would happen in too many cases). You may as well suggest mixed high schools while you are at it. Have the head cheerleader “Organicly”, mentally and emotionally engage with the quarterback.
Unless you are not suggesting removing the shaddchan & parents from the process? Then please explain yourself.