To: “adorable”
How dangerous is it? VERY dangerous!
I don’t know how old you are, but I would suggest speaking to your father in the following way (as applicable, of course)…
-Dad, I know you’ve been smoking for a long time. I know you enjoy your smokes, and I know it’s really hard for you to quit, but you DO know what the consequences will be, there’s no denying or escaping the facts. Dad, I need you around. I will be devastated if you get sick, I will be lost if you die. I need you here for my chasna, please don’t make me stand under the chupa without you there by my side. I need you here to be a zaideh to my children. I don’t want you to be someone they only hear about from the past, someone whose picture they see in an album, – I want you to be part of their lives. I want them to know you. I want you to know them. PLEASE don’t put smoking ahead of us. PLEASE don’t wait until it’s too late.
“adorable” – MY grandfather was a smoker. He died of lung cancer when he was 54 years old. I was only 4 months old at the time, and I never got to know him.