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November 3, 2011 7:41 am at 7:41 am #847695
tahini
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Thanks ontheball for putting it so well.

Since time began, it has been usual for men to marry younger women. Most boys outside of chassidishe communities are not ready for marriage at 19, it is most unfair to pressurise them to even consider it, marriage is not a mathematical equation!!! I applaud NASI for trying to help, but the financial details are sordid and upsetting. There are some great shadchanim out there, but some are rather tough too. Family yichus and wealth are NOT EVERYTHING.

I have introduced a number of couples to each other, cried with pleasure when they married and NEVER would take a penny. Sure there are professional shadchans out there charging who do a great job, but focus please on personality and middos, not prestige and wealth.