“PLEASE. Don’t mitigate Torah study IN ANY WAY. For my sake. For YOUR SAKE. You don’t need that on your head. Read what I wrote about ??? ?????? ??????? ?? ????. Please. We all here know what parnasa, husbands and wives are. Not all know what Torah is. From your writing alone I detect that.”
Wow! I do not mitigate Torah study. I mitigate EXCLUSIVE Torah study to the exclusion of earning a necessary living, and putting the achrayus of earning that living on other people. And the way girls are being brainwashed nowadays in Seminary, they beleive that if they are NOT ok with fully financially supporting their husbands, they are de facto not n’shei chayil. That’s wrong, it’s not in line with what we are taught all our lives that the role of the woman in Judaism is to be the one who runs the home and raises the next generation of Torah-true Jews. When she is out earning the living (and THAT IS her husband’s tafkid), she is NOT attending to her home and family. Someone else, whether it is a Bubby (if she has a mother who is available and not working to help support her married children herself), or a (hopefully) frum jewish babysitter, or non-Jewish housekeeper, will be raising those children. Kind of defeats the purpose for which Hashem created us, according to all the teachings that were given to me, and then to my daughters, regarding the amazing role of the Jewish wife and mother. And that role IS amazing. But is is most certainly not being fulfilled nowadays, by overworked and over-extended young wives. SOMETHING has got to give somewhere. So what worth is the FULL time learning, when it comes at such a high price? Learning half a day (as so many married guys do) is NOT good? Sorry, but I believe you are way off base, though I respect your right to believe as you do.
“For one: Torah study is not only for Eluyim, great thinkers, sharp minds. It is for everyone. Everyone who studies brings the shechina to this world.”
When did I ever say that? You are paraphrasing me very badly. I said that not every guy who learns is or likely (ever) will be an iluy. An iluy IMO, SHOULD be learning fulltime, because clearly that is why Hashem gifted him with that special mind to make use of it.
For the rest of the guys in Kollel, who understandably enjoy learning and are decent at it, there is no reason why they cannot combine Limud Torah with making a parnassah, devoting part of each day to each pursuit. I guarantee you, Hashem is cheshboning their attending to their familial duties, as ALSO bringing the Shechina to this world, because part of that G-d ordained responsibility helps to maintain Sholom Bayis, and is a good example for the children.
And yes, it IS a chessed for a woman to go out and earn a living so that her husband should be able to sit and learn. Did you forget about Racheyl and Rabbi Akiva? But not every boy is a R’ Akiva, and not every girl is able to be a Racheyl.