Listen..if a girl is mature and has her head on straight then I agree…
I work with high school girls, and in my opinion most of them don’t know who they are or what they are doing in life.. they are on cruise control. You can do college in Seminary (I finished my degree before girls who opted out of seminary) if your worried about a degree. In a whole year, you figure out who you are, who you want to be, what kind of guy you want/need, what kind of wife you want to be, how you want to raise your kids and run your home. You spend a year without outside definitions of yourself so that you can truly define yourself. Even if your a good frum girl your whole life, it important to still be someone who thinks and chooses to live that way, otherwise we are passing down meaningless traditions to the next generation. PS. just because a girl can support a guy learning doesnt mean she is going to be a good wife and mother and instill good values into the home.
But again, if a girl is Fro-Yo-ing through seminary and coming home all floaty and 18 years old wanting to get married because she found a pretty dress, wants to wear a ring and finally get to have a boyfriend…then yeah, she could have stayed home.
tzippi- im not understanding the conflict… I was talking away from home even for NY girls