I guess money and security have always been sought for sons and daughters, but today to find young men from day one saying they need support from a future wife or her family seems very odd to me.
Why get worked up ? I guess I am an old Jewish romantic, if such a thing is permitted in frum circles. I hope and pray for all my children that the person they step under the chuppah with is someone they look at with love and respect, for middos, love of Torah, humour, chemistry etc. I would never let my kids, boys or girls discount someone from a poor home, because that girl or boy without money may be rich in Torah true qualities and make my child happy.