Is it not wrong to discuss the trauma of someone’s divorce in such insulting terms?
We should worry about ourselves and how we are, not how we appear in our goldfish bowls. The phrase OTD is thrown around all over the place, usually by people who are worried not so much for the neshamas of our kehilla but by the need to conform and keep up appearances. For young couples to be happy and build a jewish home, perhaps a little less indepth family research and questioning and a more communication, discussion and exchange of ideas between the couple??? It is cruel to introduce young naive boys and girls to each other with parents in the background so actively seeking yichus and status for their families. You want successful shidduchim? Do the couple laugh naturally together, are they attracted to one another, ( the girl as well as the boy!!!!!)
It is natural for a parent to want their children happy, but happiness means caring for your child, not your status in your community!! A couple need to have a natural chemistry to get along, recognised since time began, our Torah talks of love and mutual respect between our forefathers and foremothers.