Going off the derech was unfortunately all the years, it just affecting us in “real time” when it hits home, when you know the boy or girl that nebech got lost to his/her temptations and uncontrollable lusts.
I have a friend, he was leading a beautiful life, 2 kids, special wife, [not too frum, well dressed and “taken care” etc.], and he was simply carried away by Facebook, when he gave the get he couldn’t stop crying, he knew he didn’t want this to happen, he cried for the happy and full life he’s giving up, but he was like a detainee in his own prison.