Sushe,
You need a Ptur from a B”D in order to remarry.
Health,
If you will not accept the fact that telling someone “either arbitrate with us or we will make it impossible for you to remarry, issue public notices calling you a zonah,and we will make your future children mamzerim” is forcing I guess I won’t be able to convince you that there is force involved here.
I honestly do not understand your thought process though.