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If you will not accept the fact that telling someone “either arbitrate with us or we will make it impossible for you to remarry, issue public notices calling you a zonah,and we will make your future children mamzerim” is forcing I guess I won’t be able to convince you that there is force involved here.”
And I honestly don’t understand the way you think. They aren’t forcing the Get. If she wants to be religious, she asks B’D willingly to get her a Get. If she doesn’t care about the Get -she can get divorced in civil court. The fact that once she asks for a Get that they have the right to oversee the whole divorce process isn’t called forcing.
It just seems to be that you don’t believe B’D should have any power. You think that if s/o shows up and asks for a Get that they (B’D) have no right to demand that in order for them to give it – they will do all aspects of the divorce. You think when this woman tells the B’D jump (Or get me a Get), they should say “How high?”. Sorry, go learn what a B’D is meant for. They aren’t your Shick Yingle (Message boy)!
Why don’t you try this in civil court -tell the Judge he can only judge up about the divorce and not the custody or money aspects of the divorce or vice -versa -only the custody & money aspects but he can’t divorce you? Let see what the Judge says? I’ll give you three guesses. Last year NY removed themselves from requiring a fault only divorce. This means no where in this country do you need both parties to agree to divorce. If one party wants a divorce -they get it.
How come you aren’t screaming -“Immoral -they have No right to force you.”?