Health,
You said
“The fact that once she asks for a Get that they have the right to oversee the whole divorce process isn’t called forcing.”
Please explain why you say this being that she needs the Get.
You said,
“Why don’t you try this in civil court -tell the Judge he can only judge up about the divorce and not the custody or money aspects of the divorce “
Actually a Judge would say fine, go submit to Binding Arbitration for custody and assets if you want. In fact that is what happens in most Frum Divorces.
You said,
” Last year NY removed themselves from requiring a fault only divorce. This means no where in this country do you need both parties to agree to divorce. If one party wants a divorce -they get it.”
Who here is being forced? why should any partner in a marriage be have to stay married if they no longer wish to?