Ittisa and I had a real fight over this one. We came up with a modest solution.
Rabbonim who we give do not get anything homebaked.
Anyone else who gets must be someone who would be willing to eat in our home. If not, they don’t get any Mishloach Manos. That way, we don’t worry that they aren’t enjoying Ittisa’s (and a Mashehu of my (I did shlep the flour)) hard work. 🙂