IrFlatbush;
Not a good idea, maybe send an “anonymous”
Shana Tova card to her or family.
have a woman fill it out so it doesn’t feel suspicious.
( especially if your handwriting is anything like mine,
that might be a deal breaker:) )
I guess you can do that with flowers too, if it’s addressed to
Mishpacha Ploni. Not her! You might cause her big problems if you
send her flowers at this point.
Then when it continues and works out, you can divulge it to her
or family and they’ll have a good laugh!
If not, well, you still wished a yiddishe family a Shana Tova in style. No harm done!