lightit- this is good question. Iv thought about that often and I try to force myself not to cuz it can drive me crazy and nothing positive comes from these thoughts. (for me anyways.) Now that my thoughts r here tho im gonna vent em. (buckle up, theres alot coming.) People marry people who are in ther opinion “less worthy” then them. (usually they would find that out after the Chupah..Surprise!!) They r still ur Bashert. We r born and put here to work and achieve. It seems like it would make sense to G-d that in order to build the best home possible we would get a spouse who is on the same level as us and will encourage and refine is in a way that is easy breezy and beautifull. Nah, sometimes it takes the the oposite in order for us to achieve that goal. There r so many couples who work with what they have in marriages (as opposed to what they feel they deserve..) and THAT brings them closer and stuff. Just like our life circumstances r bashert- whether they push u away or pull u up.. thats ur choice and that becomes ur Tafkid. Not the goals u think u should have, but within the life u r given, thats how u flow. Bashert is regardless and thats not our business to poke r heads into. Now the whole thing with Zivugim is so confusing and I definately dont know anything about. So basicly what i think is- B the best u, be deserving of the guy on ur list, and after that, its out of ur hands!!
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