“Which all leads to the serious thought if divorcing was worth in in the first place. Or if, perhaps, the better alternative would have been to live with whatever issues or problems existed in ones first marriage, rather than throw the dice into the unknown abyss.”
And it is even harder for the divorcee, because she loses an entire subset of eligible men – Kohanim. Which is why, BTW, when my friend’s ex-husband refused to give her a GET for well over a decade, though he was a known wife abuser, her rabbonim notified her ex that on such and such a day the entire kehillah was getting together to say Tehillim and daven for her to be kosher to marry a Kohein. She had the GET almost immediately thereafter.
The better alternative to divorce IMO, is not to get married too quickly without really knowing someone a great deal better than most couples do nowadays. And though dating for a longer period of time is no guarantee of compatibility, it nonetheless helps to underscore certain character issues that often do not reveal themselves in the first few weeks of a budding relationship, the “honeymoon” phase of dating. It really is only when someone lets his/her guard down, that certain personality issues become more evident. I don’t think couples should shlep around either, for long periods of time, but I have seen too many 5-week wonders that culminated in divorce within the first year (some within the first 3 months).