I haven’t read all of the prior posts, only the first few and skimmed through some of the rest. I feel compelled to point out to Dr. Pepper that the original post refers to the BOYS in shidduchim and NOT the shadchans. If you feel there is another issue that needs to be addressed, maybe another thread should be started. You do have a point, but it does not seem in any way contradictory or even supplementary to the original poster’s point.
Additionally if the poster was the type of shadchan who is “in it for the money”, if they do exist, why would she bother herself with problems of the shidduch world, after all she’s getting paid anyway.
And as a sidenote, I come from a community where shadchanim do not ever get paid! People make matches as chesed and the couple gives a gift to the shadchan after they get married, as a thank you!