I didn’t ask anything about your personal life. Nor do i care. I was just expressing the idea that this isn’t some theoretical conversation, and has strong implications if you stand by what you wrote.
As I posted earlier from the Chazon Ish, you may not avoid such things excessively, as this has the reverse effect than intended. We are not smarter than the Torah.
Yes, according to Ger the comparison was wrong. But that’s exactly the point – they took something which has inherent value, and turned it into pretzels (and worse).