abcd2: There’s a difference when someone asks “Hey do you think your wife would want to clean my toilets?” vs. “Hey, my wife needs cleaning help desperately! Do you think your wife would be interested in the job?”
Its not just our bubbies and zaidies who were fit to clean, we are too! However, those of us that do work, find it easier to have cleaning help. Those that stay at home may feel overwhelmed. And if there is a group of people that are willing to clean for a living, why is it wrong to ask them? They know they are cheaper and thats how they get more jobs! (by the way, a number of my friends have had teh experience of having an african american cleaning lady and were not happy. It seems that mexicans are much more gentle around chandeleirs, glass, and delicate china/furniture)
Many mexicans (and other nationalites) are not yet american citizens and cant find work due to their illegal status. Asking them if they want a job that is off the books is not a bad thing, especially if they want the job!
I think i covered most of your points.
By the way, i dont beleive in hiring cleaning help. The one time that i did (whom happened to have been a mexican) i was extremely uncomfortable and i dont think i’d ever do it again!