Whats ironic is that the larger more generous wedding gifts are usually reserved for those who have fancier lavish weddings. To me that’s a corrupt mindset. If there’s any purpose at all to giving a wedding gift it would be to help the couple start their life together with some money. The wealthier the couples parents may be stands to reason the less the couple needs start up money. The problem is that the wealthy tend to socialize with their kind and the middle class/poor with theirs. What ends up happening is that a poor couple who gets married in a “takana” hall probably don’t even net $15k while a weathy couple getting married in an extravagant hall/hotel may net 2 or 3 times that or even more. What even more absurd is that people who can’t afford wedding gifts feel “more” obligated to give when attending a fancier affair.
Bottom line is if you can’t pay your bills DON’T give wedding presents & certainly don’t feel obligated to a wealthy couple. If you desire to give a wedding gift to a poor couple it may even be considered tzedaka especially if they will rely on it to sit & learn.