ok, maybe we agree.
Maybe I just analogized the CR people telling him what to do, to himself trying to find out the correct thing to do; rather than to the guy demanding it of him.
Anyway, Rabeinu yona says that if you go somewhere for shabbos and they don’t serve shaloshudes, you should be meiz panav and say “??? ???”. So you see, you are supposed to ask the baal babos to do it for you. (This part was not serious)