Moq, VERY well said.
SJS, no, it wouldn’t “have happened anyway.” Provide extra opportunities for it to “have happened”, and then it will happen a lot more frequently. Like Moq said, S”A says “keep far, far away from women” as a GENERAL statement for very good reason.
Additionally, you can’t have a mixed wedding only for the 18 – 23 year olds whilst excluding the 13 – 16 year olds from mixing as well.
As far as research, if something turns up negative AFTER a bond was formed, it may be too late to break.