Sacrilige – “I think tou are giving too much clout to the “yetzer hara” as if its an actual identity”
And you make the yetzer hara sound like a fantasized creature who’s existence is in doubt. The yetzer hara exists, and he’s out to get every one of this. As I once heard in the name of one of the early chassidish rebbes (forgot which one), “you must think of the yetzer hara as a man standing over you with a sword, trying to cut your head off. And if you can’t think of him this way,it means he already has.” The first step in winning a war is to acknowledge you have an enemy. I apologize for the length of this rant, but it’s Elul and feel this topic is important.
“Do I think that there is something wrong with mature boys and girls mingaling and talking with eachother? no.”
Neither do I, assuming its for marriage purposes.
“Do I think that our frum society has made it into such a big deal that now so many people just want to do it, and then bad thing end up coming out of it for no reason? 1,000%”
No, “our frum society has made into such a big deal” precisely because bad things can (and often do) come out of it, and why take chances?
dunno – “Uh, how young do you think you can start college already? Usually graduating high school is a requirement.”
One can finish high school by 17 or 18, and that’s without taking shortcuts.
“You keep on repeating yourself as do I regarding meeting at a wedding – again SJSinNYC answers that.”
Answers what?
“I hate to inform you that not everyone on the “shidduch market” has the maturity you speak about.”
That may be true, but what does it have to do with anything?