Dunno: “I am referring to a girl who will only want a guy who is at least 5″10. While she would never listen to any suggestion of a 5″8 boy, she meets one in college…likes him…and she learns that maybe his height isn’t such an important factor. In the case of shidduch dating this wouldn’t happen since she wouldn’t even end up meeting him. Same with a guy who decides he can only marry a size 2 girl and many other cases.”
You know, if your kids are so fargoyisht that they make an issue out of such narishkeiten, perhaps you SHOULD go all the way and expose them to the other gender? The shidduch system apparantly works well only in tandem with the Chassidish (known until quite recently as “Jewish”) way of looking for quality instead of quantity (or lack thereof, think size 2). “Az m’est shoin chazer, zol rinen fin burd.”
Moq: “Men & Women of all social strata, intelligence, and levels of religiosity have done stupid things they never would have dreamed of doing.”
At extremely different rates, you should add. 60% of “frum” kids sleeping around? Gevald geshrigen! In chasidish circles it’s less than 1%! Why? Because our men and boys are kept “far, far away from women”. Just proving the point of your otherwise excellent post.