always here, I am hoping that he takes a look at what his opportunities are and doesn’t just give up and stay stuck in a job he doesn’t love because he feels thats the best he can do. That is really sad. We can always try to strive for better and can always find the help to move us forward. Considering the fact that Goq is an older Bochur and truly wants to find happiness in marriage and family, I would hate to think that he is giving up on himself and not consistently working to improve his lot in life.
We once had a thread about what to say to people looking for shidduchim. Do you confront them and show them that they are really not doing their utmost in presenting themselves as a good prospect? Or do you just shrug your shoulders and sigh with them about their problem? I believe that Goq could do more to be a happier individual, a more productive financial provider and a better shidduch prospect if he changes his attitude about “its the best I can do”. Even when we think we hit the top, we still keep going to try and elevate ourselves even further.