Reply To: descriptions on shidduch resume?

MP- thanx for the concern. unfortunately, my family dynamics are on the messed up side; certain things can set my father off in unexpected ways. my father knows what i am looking for but not things that would hurt him. ie, he knows i want someone who is calm and does not get angry but details like i want someone who can discuss something that is bothering him before it becomes a major issue i did not tell him. i am who i am today because i made a conscience decision to be different than my parents. part of doing that was making my list of things that are important to me in my future husband based on things i like(or disliked) about my parents.

another reason i hinted to before. my father says he is open-minded and can accept other opinions yet it is not true. time and time again i will say something i found nice, a chap on a p’shat, something i think is important only to have my father correct me. it is only since sem i have learned to nod my head to him while mentally blocking his words on subject XYZ. the way i think is not for him to correct if i disagree on a certain area. i have learned there are certain topics not to mention and my father does not make a fuss if i leave a certain conversation/topic. it saves alot of stress in the family. because i like my mind the way it is, i rarely ask his opinion on certain topics

not a tircha and apy-NO NO NO NO and NO. so you are saying i should sell myself? make my resume eye catching? NO. just FYI, i am no looking for a learning BOY, i am looking for a MAN who is WORKING. i’m not looking for the ‘best’ boy in the yeshiva. if i am supposed to meet my bashert, my resume (or how ever it happens) will get to him.