“I see what ur saying, but I also agree with yentingyenta that we are complex individuals, and it’s kind of hard to really describe oneself. Hey – I’ve been married almost 22 years, and I still can’t describe myself ;)”
It is a huge process toward self actualization. Forget shidduchim, every person should know him/herself at least to the point that they could write one honest paragraph of who they are and what they want to be.
The second paragraph should not be what you want you want in someone else, but the traits that you think fully complement yours.