Middlepath:
I’m sorry if I came off as rude, as that was definitely not my intention. My point is that men and women don’t think alike(for that matter, no two men or women think alike), and that I’m sick of all the complaints women have about men when it comes to shiduchim. Secondly, I’m fed up with the generalizations that all men are like that. Men have issues when it comes to shiduchim too. For example, i have a friend who’s having a difficult time with shiduchim, because he’s a low key, quite kind of guy. After a date or two the girl’s dump him because “he doesn’t have a personality” or “he’s boring”. If you know him, that is definitely not true. But I guess on the first couple of dates, since he’s a little shyish, they decide that he doesn’t have a personality. Now do I have a right to start complaining “women are looking for the absolute PERFECT man that’s lively and outgoing and is exciting and will entertain them, and they make generalizations about personalities before they even get to know them, wow this is so shallow!” Obviously, this is a dumb thing to say because 1. everyone is looking for something different. 2. it’s not right to say this is what women in general do. I feel bad for the women who have had bad experiences with their weight in shiduchim, but as I said, NONE of my friends are like that. Keep looking somewhere else.
And BTW; I just want to let everyone know that I know women who would turn down a shiduch because of the guys looks. It looks like we have these “shallow monsters” everywhere.