justThink, thanks for saying that. Regarding the point you made, yes, it is unfair of those girls to break off dating a guy early on because of his shyness, because that is usually something that comes with time. They can’t expect him to be completely himself the first time, especially if it’s a situation where they were set up by a third party and they don’t know each other at all.
popa, you’re not getting it. And no, I don’t think your original explanation is correct. I found a better way to describe the distinction I’m talking about: The distinction is “self esteem” and “self centeredness”. For a girl, her appearance directly relates to her self esteem. And if that includes “paint on her face”, then that is what’s needed. Self esteem is important, and is good. But for a guy to only want a pretty girl, that is self centeredness. And that is BAD.
And I’m not fighting, I’m simply explaining my stance. And in this particular issue, I think many men DO blind themselves to it to justify their viewpoint. In other issues, women blind themselves to justify their viewpoints. Everyone does it at times.