Re Nobody: I’m an out of town hick, I guess, despite having credentials that YOU would call heimish 😉 and I truly don’t know the reid. If anyone can print a universally accepted glossary that would be greatly appreciated before I do more harm.
Klal Yisrael has just been through a profoundly traumatic 72 hours, where all the labels seem to have fallen away. Reminds of the Beilus trial, and the classic vort on “ODOM ki yakriv mi-kem.”
I realize precision is necessary and there’s another thread on shidduchim emphasizing asking appropriate questions to ensure the kids build a bnb, and that such discussion IS often times necessary. But some of us have definitions that are a bit more fluid and inclusive. In case of doubt, speak English.