Reply To: what people look for in shidduch dating

Bar Shattya, one flaw there… What happens three months after the chupah when one day they both discover that their spouse is not as frum as they each thought? They were both “putting on an act”, so to speak, and weren’t being their natural selves. I assumed that when only one of the spouses (spice?) is “appearing” frummer than natural – but within their comfort zone – then its sustainable, but if both of them are putting on an appearance then it’s a shaky foundation. Btw, I didn’t mean you should lie and give off the impression that you’re a shtarka yeshivish bochur when in reality you eat at KFC every shabbos- I just meant find someone whose level of frumkite brings out the better side of you.