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yentingyenta
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I went to a Shadchan and s/he had a preprinted card. this is basically what the card had:

name

hebrew name

parents’ hebrew names

school(s)

learning or koveah itim

hat-yes or no

rekkel-yes or no

payos-yes or no

tzitzis in or out

beard-yes or no

height-how tall min.?

smoking-yes or no

sephardi-yes or no

chassidish-yes or no

divorced-yes or no

parents divorced-yes or no

BT-yes or no

i got SO annoyed at this shadchan for asking such SILLY questions! for 80% of the questions, I said “as long as he looks like a mensch” or “I never really thought about it because it is not really important (said this when he asked about height. as long as he is taller that me i’m happy)

I was not impressed w/ this system. so many of the questions seemed superficial to me and not really important. then again, if he is asking these questions, other people must be asking him/her those questions when s/he redts a shidduch.