WIY, from a woman’s point of view, I can understand what you want, I don’t think you’re asking for something too extreme.
However, I do not believe you can NOT see this about a girl while dating. Even if you date for months.
I can’t see it wrong to ask the girl outright, in a respectful way if she’s this way or the other.
Tell her it’s one of your important requirements. You’re not being shallow here. It’s quite important.
If she’s the way you want, she’ll let you know, otherwise, she’ll fly for her life. No lazy girl wants a husband who wants her to be not lazy.